In-person in San Francisco & online across California
Couples Therapy in San Francisco
Relationships evolve. Therapy can help you grow with them.
“How did we end up here…and how hasn’t this changed by now?”
Things once felt so solid. Love and connection came naturally, intimacy was satisfying and fun, and it was so easy just to be together. And if there were early challenges, you thought they would change over time.
But now, things are much more complicated.
You’re stuck in the same old conversations and endless arguments. Perhaps you (or your partner) are dealing with something from the past, making day-to-day life feel uncomfortably tense or disconnected. You’re out of sync with each other, and it’s more than just “off”—you’re misaligned with your goals, needs, and who you’re becoming.
And while part of you wants to “respect your differences,” another part wonders if the distance between you has just grown too wide to bridge.
Or maybe it’s not just between you, it’s also everything else around you. Work stress, family dynamics, identity shifts, lack of boundaries…or bigger questions about what kind of relationship you even want to build (or let go of).
These kinds of challenges don’t only show up in crisis. They can unfold slowly over time, in long-term partnerships or newer ones, in relationships of all structures and at any stage of life. Therapy helps you sort through the mess and come out the other side.
Couples therapy is for any relationship navigating:
The same old fight playing on repeat
Feeling more distant than close
The struggle to get on the same page about the future (or anything)
Conversations that go nowhere
Needs not being met—emotionally, sexually, or otherwise
Pain from the past getting in the way
Healthy, meaningful relationships aren’t without pain or struggle—they’re more open to moving through it together.
MY APPROACH
This is a place to hit pause and actually hear each other, without all the other noise getting in the way.
When you’re trying to rebalance something that’s shifted or just wondering how things got so off track, this work brings you back into alignment—with yourself and with each other. And these types of challenges can come with different relationship lengths, structures, or stages of life.
We’ll start by understanding your unique relationship dynamic: what’s working, where you’re getting stuck, and what you both want from this process. It’s important to me to create space for nuance, for both laughter and discomfort, for slowness when things feel a bit tender—and momentum when you’re ready to move.
The experience often unfolds in phases—
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Getting to know you and your relationship
Mapping patterns, strengths, and unmet needs
Setting shared and individual goals
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Exploring conflict cycles, communication habits, and attachment
Learning tools for repair, regulation, and re-connection
Making space for play, curiosity, and deeper intimacy
Navigating identity, culture, power, and relational roles
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Integrating the work into daily life
Creating rituals of connection and check-in
Reflecting on growth, change, and the life ahead
My style is collaborative, curious, and nonjudgmental. I integrate frameworks like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method, trauma-informed care (AEDP), and somatic practices—always tailoring our work to what you need. If it’s helpful, we may bring in tools like Brainspotting, nervous system regulation, attachment theory, or communication practice. And if you're exploring changes to the structure of your relationship (opening, closing, or redefining), we’ll hold those decisions and choices carefully and with respect.
There’s no one “right” outcome in this work. Some couples grow closer, and some part ways. Others leave better equipped to keep showing up for each other. The goal here is to move toward a way of existing and connecting that feels most true and authentic to both of you.
WHAT YOU CAN WALK AWAY WITH:
A deeper, more personal way of understanding and communicating with each other
The knowledge that relationships have seasons, and that you can grow and adapt with them
Space to be different, multi-faceted individuals, and still feel deeply united
The ability to move through hard moments and inevitable challenges without losing each other in the process
A clearer sense of what’s yours, what’s theirs, and what belongs to the relationship
Intimacy that feels less like pressure or a chore, and more like something you both want to return to
No matter the length, shape, or season of your relationship, it’s possible to find a new rhythm.
Frequently asked questions
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It’s common for a partner (or partners) to feel more hesitant. We can talk through that openly. There’s no pressure to arrive at this experience with everything “figured out” or neatly organized—therapy can help you decide what’s next and give you the tools for whatever relationship you’re navigating.
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Yes. Sometimes therapy helps people reconnect. Other times, it’s a supportive space to part ways intentionally and carefully. We’ll honor what’s true for you, whatever that may be.
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It doesn’t need to! I work with many relationships that don’t follow dominant cultural models. You don’t need to justify or explain your dynamic. I welcome you and your relationships from a place of respect and openness.
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Yes. I welcome people in monogamous, polyamorous, queer, trans, open, closed, co-parenting, platonic, blended, or exploring partnerships. If you’re in a relationship that matters to you and you want support—this is for you.